Comments on: Adoption – In Search Of My Biomammy http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/ Some people say forgive and forget...I say forget about forgiving and just accept. And... get the hell out of town. Fri, 15 Jul 2011 22:11:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: paddy http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-19523 paddy Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:23:41 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-19523 hows it going mate im 27 and am adopted, i never thought i gave a shxx about it untill i read your story and i have found myself in floods of tears(i would normally concider myself as a hard man and to be honest i cant remember the last time i cried, im addopted myself and and was brought up as an only child, your story MAY give me the strength i need to find out weather i have siblings that i have unknowingly longed for all my life. thanks for sharing hows it going mate im 27 and am adopted, i never thought i gave a shxx about it untill i read your story and i have found myself in floods of tears(i would normally concider myself as a hard man and to be honest i cant remember the last time i cried, im addopted myself and and was brought up as an only child, your story MAY give me the strength i need to find out weather i have siblings that i have unknowingly longed for all my life. thanks for sharing

]]> By: These Are a Few of My Favourite Things | DarrenByrne.com - The Crabling Otter http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-4446 These Are a Few of My Favourite Things | DarrenByrne.com - The Crabling Otter Sat, 04 Oct 2008 09:51:19 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-4446 [...] over one year ago my biomammy came up to Dublin to see me and to celebrate my birthday with me for the first time since I was [...] [...] over one year ago my biomammy came up to Dublin to see me and to celebrate my birthday with me for the first time since I was [...]

]]> By: Mary http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-56 Mary Wed, 12 Mar 2008 09:09:39 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-56 Darren, I'm delighted it has all turned out so well for everyone involved, but especially yourself and your mam. I hope you all have many many many happy occassions to celebrate together in the future (maybe even one of yours ;-)). Darren, I’m delighted it has all turned out so well for everyone involved, but especially yourself and your mam.
I hope you all have many many many happy occassions to celebrate together in the future (maybe even one of yours ;-) ).

]]> By: Mark http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Mark Mon, 10 Mar 2008 22:17:31 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-32 Few good points raised Darren. I might put in a call alright - as you said, it won't hurt. I'll keep you posted on the progress. Few good points raised Darren. I might put in a call alright – as you said, it won’t hurt. I’ll keep you posted on the progress.

]]> By: Gary http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-31 Gary Mon, 10 Mar 2008 21:31:05 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-31 I would like to point out that it wasn't actually me who quipped about the doorstep I always get blamed for things I didn't do! Fair play none the less! (And wasn't it the Berkley Court??) I would like to point out that it wasn’t actually me who quipped about the doorstep

I always get blamed for things I didn’t do!

Fair play none the less! (And wasn’t it the Berkley Court??)

]]> By: Darren http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-30 Darren Mon, 10 Mar 2008 13:44:47 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-30 <br>Mark,<br> The great thing about the register is that if your birth parents are also registered, the computer matches you very swiftly and you will hear something within a few weeks. The difficulty arises where they have not registered.<br> The process (via the Adoption Board) can take a long time (maybe years). I know of some people who have resorted to private agencies to track their parents down. The advantage of this is obviously the speed at which it happens compared with the Adoption Board. The disadvantage is that you (and your parents) will not have the councelling support, the mediator, etc. which is vital in many cases.<br> I would encourage you to take some time to allow the adoption board to get the ball rolling (of course, <a href="http://www.adoptionboard.ie/contacts/index.php" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">giving them a call</a> certainly won't hurt). But if you don't get any feedback that way, then think long and hard about doing your own search. Consider the thoughts of your birth parents and your own feelings before doing anything rash. Drop me a mail and let me know your situation. Mark,

The great thing about the register is that if your birth parents are also registered, the computer matches you very swiftly and you will hear something within a few weeks. The difficulty arises where they have not registered.

The process (via the Adoption Board) can take a long time (maybe years). I know of some people who have resorted to private agencies to track their parents down. The advantage of this is obviously the speed at which it happens compared with the Adoption Board. The disadvantage is that you (and your parents) will not have the councelling support, the mediator, etc. which is vital in many cases.

I would encourage you to take some time to allow the adoption board to get the ball rolling (of course, giving them a call certainly won’t hurt). But if you don’t get any feedback that way, then think long and hard about doing your own search. Consider the thoughts of your birth parents and your own feelings before doing anything rash. Drop me a mail and let me know your situation.

]]> By: Mark http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-27 Mark Sun, 09 Mar 2008 00:59:45 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-27 Thanks for the good luck wishes Darren. The only thing I would ask you, I'm 35 and have been thinking about this for a long time, I'm ready, mentally, even if it was tomorrow - if there's a way I can speed up the process up - a phone call or something that'd be great (as in who to call). I have quite a few details about her, I honestly think I could find her myself in a few days - that much info - so it shouldn't be too much work for anyone to track her down - I just don't my letter going to the bottom of a long pile. Thanks for the good luck wishes Darren. The only thing I would ask you, I’m 35 and have been thinking about this for a long time, I’m ready, mentally, even if it was tomorrow – if there’s a way I can speed up the process up – a phone call or something that’d be great (as in who to call). I have quite a few details about her, I honestly think I could find her myself in a few days – that much info – so it shouldn’t be too much work for anyone to track her down – I just don’t my letter going to the bottom of a long pile.

]]> By: Darren http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-26 Darren Fri, 07 Mar 2008 16:45:08 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-26 Thank you for the comment, EnglishM. Yes, you're right - it's a beginning. I'm actually heading down to Clare this weekend for the twins confirmation, which should be fun.<br /> <br /> As for the blog awards, it's a shame you missed it. Everyone was so lovely and it was a fantastic night. It inspired me. Thank you for the comment, EnglishM. Yes, you’re right – it’s a beginning. I’m actually heading down to Clare this weekend for the twins confirmation, which should be fun.
 

As for the blog awards, it’s a shame you missed it. Everyone was so lovely and it was a fantastic night. It inspired me.

]]> By: Engish Mum http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-25 Engish Mum Fri, 07 Mar 2008 16:17:26 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-25 Hello! Just arrived for the first time via Grandad. Really enjoyed this post - so nice to read a happy ending (or should that be beginning??). Jeez I'm gutted I missed the Blog Awards, everyone seems to have met each other! Hello! Just arrived for the first time via Grandad. Really enjoyed this post – so nice to read a happy ending (or should that be beginning??). Jeez I’m gutted I missed the Blog Awards, everyone seems to have met each other!

]]> By: Grannymar http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-20 Grannymar Thu, 06 Mar 2008 00:39:01 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-20 Hi Darren. Great post right from your heart. I am so pleased that it all worked out so well. Thanks for sharing. Hi Darren. Great post right from your heart. I am so pleased that it all worked out so well. Thanks for sharing.

]]> By: Ken McGuire http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Ken McGuire Wed, 05 Mar 2008 14:18:41 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-17 Ah dude, absolutely delighted for you. Great read of a post, but a great story in itself. Plus "biomammy" rocks :) Ah dude, absolutely delighted for you. Great read of a post, but a great story in itself.

Plus “biomammy” rocks :)

]]> By: Darren http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-16 Darren Wed, 05 Mar 2008 14:15:01 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-16 Paul, grow that pair, grow it! To be honest, if it hadn't been so simple and quick a process for me, I'd probably still be dawdling with paperwork. It's all worth it in the end! Paul, grow that pair, grow it!

To be honest, if it hadn’t been so simple and quick a process for me, I’d probably still be dawdling with paperwork. It’s all worth it in the end!

]]> By: Paul McClean http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-15 Paul McClean Wed, 05 Mar 2008 14:06:27 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-15 Hi Darren, Well done for having the bravery to go through with it. I too have a biomammy out there somewhere, I also filled out the preference register when it came out. Ironically, I also ended up working on the adoption board web site many moons ago (it's a sign!). Hopefully one of these days, I'll grow a pair of balls and pursue it. All the best. Hi Darren,
Well done for having the bravery to go through with it. I too have a biomammy out there somewhere, I also filled out the preference register when it came out. Ironically, I also ended up working on the adoption board web site many moons ago (it’s a sign!). Hopefully one of these days, I’ll grow a pair of balls and pursue it. All the best.

]]> By: Darren http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-14 Darren Wed, 05 Mar 2008 11:30:49 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-14 Mark, good luck with it. Don't be too disheartened if it takes a while to happen. If you need any advice, guidance or just words of encouragement, let me know. :) Mark, good luck with it. Don’t be too disheartened if it takes a while to happen.

If you need any advice, guidance or just words of encouragement, let me know.

:)

]]> By: Mark http://www.darrenbyrne.com/2008/03/03/adoption-in-search-of-my-biomammy/comment-page-1/#comment-13 Mark Wed, 05 Mar 2008 11:11:48 +0000 http://www.darrenbyrne.com/?p=29#comment-13 Just filled the forms last week. I hope my journey is as successful as yours. Well done. I'm glad it worked out. Just filled the forms last week. I hope my journey is as successful as yours. Well done. I’m glad it worked out.

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